Positive Discipline for Your Child

September 2, 2014

We really want our kids to be well behaved; however, the children are naughty by nature. But once that naughtiness turns into misbehavior, it will become necessary to discipline them. Now, when the question of discipline arises, most parents believe the only way to discipline the children is by using force. But, the reality is that using force on kids is quite incorrect. It hinders both their physical and emotional wellbeing. What parenting demands is positive child discipline.

Positive child discipline
Okay, there are actually numerous reasons why you will have to use positive child discipline, instead of yelling, whenever a child does something that you don’t accept. Now, ranting and yelling aren't the only two negative solutions to discipline a young child. There are several other things which parents usually resort to and which also fall under the category of negative discipline. Much to the disappointment for these parents, there are numerous studies that show that negative discipline in fact doesn’t work in the first place.

Child Discipline - What you have to know
Now, here is some apparently basic, but very important piece of information to begin with. What you might not know is a lot of the things your kids learn are from watching other folks. You can think of them as mirror that reflects what has been shown to it. Thus, it is quite clear, that you as parents, along with other family members at your house, have great influence on your kids. This holds extremely true if your kid is young. Don’t assume that since he is so young, he doesn’t possess emotions or he doesn’t understand anything. If you observe them carefully, you will notice that exactly the same things which hurt, humiliate or embarrass us, do the same to them. It really goes further with your kids, since it completely shuts them down.

Whenever we use negative forms to control them, it has the very same impact on them. And what all can be included in negative forms of discipline? - Demeaning, shaming, embarrassing, shouting, intimidating and hitting. It will do no good at all.

You are reading this article itself implies that your way of badly disciplining your kids isn't working. Any negative emotion or tactic will never ingrain any positive habits. Your children are just like soft mud, which can be moulded in any kind of shape we like. They are not crooked nor do they understand politics. They just need your love and affection. If we leave aside the egos and deal with them positively and carefully even when they supposedly misconduct, they'll correct themselves much sooner. When you chastise them, they just feel hurt, plus they subtly understand that you are their controller, and so they just have to hear you. However, this is out of fear, not from understanding that they have done something bad. The things they understand is that you just didn’t like whatever they did. And thus, this can be no way a permanent solution.  Therefore parenting child discipline in positive way is the only real alternative.


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